“The first principle is that you must not fool yourself – and you are the easiest person to fool.”

– Richard Feynman

Always Seek The Truth

Always be true to yourself. To your nature. Always seek the truth. Do not bend it into what it isn’t. You must see the truth for what it is. Not how you want to see it and how you want it to be.

We must accept the truth even if it is painful and uncomfortable. Why? Because the truth will always remain as it is no matter what. So we might as well do our best to accept it.

There is nothing more harmful and more debilitating in this world than self-deception. Why? Because it blinds us from the truth. We are living in a world of illusion. And when we do live in a world full of illusions, it’s hard for us to exert control over the situation because it (the situation) exerts control over us. We are blinded by the false images and false depictions that are being presented to us.

Get Out Of Your Own Head

The solution? Get out of your own head. Don’t tell yourself a story. Don’t make yourself more ‘special’ than you actually are. At the same time, don’t put on a facade of false humility. Just be yourself. Just be how you actually are. As Goethe have said, “It is a great error to take oneself for more than one is, or for less than one is worth.” The key is to aim for balance. Be confident with yourself and with your own abilities. But at the same time, always bear in mind that we aren’t as good as we think we are. There are always rooms for improvement. This will keep us grounded and level-headed.

“It is a great error to take oneself for more than one is, or for less than one is worth.”

– Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Accepting The Mundane

One way to do this is to accept the mundane and to start embracing it. The ‘normalness’ and ‘everydayness’ of life is part of our experience as human beings.

It would help if we would stop thinking our lives are ‘grand narratives’ wherein we are the protagonists and that we are ‘special’. If we do this, it would save us from a lot of heart breaks, disappointments, and dissatisfactions.

Building Resilience

When the world fails to meet our expectations. When the people around us can’t see where we a coming from. We wouldn’t be as devastated and as heart broken because we are living in reality. We are not living in a fictionalized and idealized version of the world. We’ve come to grips with the fact that reality is often not how we want it to be. So we have to adapt and cope up with it in order for us to survive and keep on living.

Accepting the mundane, accepting what is routinary and normal will build our resilience. And when we are resilient, we are in a better condition to face and overcome the challenges that life and the world will throw at us.

This is why we should avoid the pitfalls and trappings of self-deception. We should not escape reality. We should face it. That is the only way that we can cope up with it.

Staying Sober

You see things as they are. You have the ability to detach yourself from a deeply held belief and see it more objectively. You are not for or against it. Rather, you see it for what it is. And if you find out that it is inconsistent with the truth, you discard it. You discard it because you know that the truth is the truth. It will never change ‘itself’ for our own benefit. So we should change ourselves instead. Why? Because if we want to always remain true with ourselves. If we want to avoid the pitfalls of self-deception – which eventually causes our demise and downfall. We should always align ourselves with the truth. Even if the truth is painful and uncomfortable. That is the only way we can cope up and survive in the ‘real world’.

When you get out of your own head. When you stop telling yourself a story. You will be grounded in reality. Thus, you avoid the pitfalls of self-deception and disillusionment. In other words, you are ‘sober’. And when you are sober, you see things more clearly.

Thank You!

Okay that’s it for now, thank you for reading this entry! I hope you got something out of it. Something valuable. Something that you can apply in your own life. If you would like to add something that you feel would be of great help to the other readers. Feel free to do so by dropping a comment down below. I and (I presume) the other readers would love to hear from you. Again, thank you for reading this entry. Cheers! Till next time!😊👋

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Inspired by: Ego Is The Enemy by Ryan Holiday (Book)

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